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Falling In Love
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Falling in love is one of the strongest positive emotions because it is accompanied by joy. When you are falling in love, whether it is romantic love, love for a newborn baby or even love for a newly acquired pet, the world seems a better place. Nothing or no one can bother you because you're so incredibly happy. In his book The Re-Enchantment of Everyday Life, Thomas Moore writes, “During my years of practice as a psychotherapist, I felt that people bringing me their stories of a foundering career, a failing marriage, a tenacious depression, or an overpowering addiction were suffering from a deeper malaise. They had fallen out of love with life itself which, in their adult years, had become an absorbing collection of problems.” We've all experienced a scenario when a love relationship suffers because you have shifted your focus from all that you adore about your loved one to all the things you'd like to change. The more strongly you focus on the flaws, the more your loved one seems determined to display them. Spouses become annoyances, children spoiled brats and pets a real nuisance. Instead of being shrouded in a cloud of happiness, you are trapped in a downwardly spiraling tornado of negative emotion. You are falling out of love. Don't get me wrong, you still love your loved one but that is very different from being in love. One is a fact, the other a delicious action.

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Tender Touch
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North Americans have been called one of the world's least tactile people; we hold, hug, pat, stroke, fondle and caress each other much less often than do other folks. Psychologists have suggested that we suffer from "touch hunger" and that this is just one of the signs of our ongoing loss of connection and community. Most of us have fewer and fewer people to confide in and live our everyday lives on the edge of emotional isolation. Ironically, this is happening at a time when scientific studies are giving us the clear message that loneliness seriously harms our physical health, especially our hearts (literally!) and our resilience to stress.

This sense of isolation is a pivotal concern in love relationships. As a therapist, I know that when I ask a couple to tell me their story, they will immediately launch into tales of anger, fights and frustration. But the real story begins emerges when someone says the word "lonely." Partners tell me "I am lonelier with him/her than when I am by myself!" and they weep. This deprivation, this loss of emotional connection, is most obvious when we are not touched or do not feel safe enough to reach and touch our loved one. Emotional and physical connection go together.

Why is this separateness is so devastating to people? The new science of love tells us that feeling a sense of connection to another is the deepest and most pressing need we have as human beings. Our social brain codes this connection as safety, and touch is the most obvious route into this safety. There is evidence that touch floods us with the cuddle hormone oxytocin. This chemical turns off stress hormones like cortisol and turns on the reward centers in our brain. With a simple touch, we feel recognized, soothed, comforted and, in sexual contexts, aroused. Without this sense of connection, we feel emotionally deprived, even starved.

Rejection and a sense that we are emotionally separated from or shut out by our loved one triggers the same part of the brain, the anterior cingulated, as does physical pain, Partners speak about the pain of rejection or abandonment in terms of life and death. This is not because they are immature or too needy. It is because emotional isolation is traumatic, reminding us of our essential vulnerability in a world teeming with danger. If we cannot recognize our basic need and ask directly for touch and connection -- perhaps to be held, this moment of disconnection can be the beginning of a slide into more and more isolation and relationship distress.

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