Relationship is when partners or lovers know or trust one another very well. A confidants of one another. It is a commitment... Lovers want commitment because of their love. COMMITMENTS which are guarantees that you are happy to give and receive.

Relationship can be full of fun, romance, excitements and heartaches too. It is the most challenging part of our world. People talk endlessly about love, but what is it? LOVE...that they believe some of the important factors include physical and emotional intimate relationships.

LOVE...people talk everywhere-radio talk, newspapers, artist, psychologists movies, and even religions across the world. We all fantasize about it, but why there are still people who are afraid to commit? Is it because of the fear of loss control? The fear of intimacy? or the fear of getting hurt?

Nowadays, several new trends came up. Courtship had disappeared, computer had offered services which matches people based on their ages, questionnaires which measures their compatibility. But is this type of modernization did bind a strong relationship? A happy marriage life or a family life? I'll share you some insights which will guide to have a healthy relationship:

In a relationship there is a need that you APPRECIATE YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER. This means that you're sensitively aware so you don't have to pretend. You have to love them who they are and not what they are. You have to tell them that you love him or her without any hesitations.

BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS. In everything you do, you should have the ability to respond. You know, to make my "yes" means "yes" and my "no" means "no. It does not mean that you are to blame. If you've done something wrong with your partner, be curious on how you might do it differently next time or to analyze your mistake without making it confrontational. Create a better relationship for yourself rather that try to change your partner. Because if you twist him/her to a person you wanted to be, it is not him/her that you loved but the person you created in him/her.

MAKE CLEAR AGREEMENTS. Do what you say. Keep your word. Hold on to your commitments. Be on time. It is important that you should keep your agreements because this shows that you have respect to yourself and your partner. This process creates a sense of trust. If your partner has broken their agreements with you. STOP! Ask them what is going on! Something is happening.

BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS. We make ourself happy. We become unfamiliar with how to make ourselves happy. If you are unhappy, don't blame your partner. We should go away from blaming and fault finding. We should make ourselves happy first and share this with our partner.

DISREGARD EXPECTATIONS. The things you've done to your partner are the things you know you have to do it and that you wanted to them. Don't say "If you loved me, you would....", because this strategy will not create a healthy relationship. Don't expect that they will give back to you the good deeds you've made. Neither count your contribution on your relationship, you'll never win. It is not a race or a game.

COMMUNICATE. Commitments need to be spoken. You have to tell each other of your commitment. Give each other to respond. If you have doubts on your relationship, give time to learn, you may not know where the learning may take them. Communicate above the call of expectation.

BUILD TRUST. Jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when he or she feels jealous is what matters. Honor your commitments. Build trust through keeping your commitments in your relationship.

BE HONEST. Some relationships why they fail is because they lack integrity and honesty which is very essential. If you keep a secret, how would your partner can ever TRUST you? And when she/he finds out, what the making excuses? Nah, it was just a pile of "blah, blah, blah..." which just had a little meaning showing disrespectful. Therefore the odds of creating a "real relationship" in this manner is nil.

MUTUAL RESPECT. Respect each other. Lest we receive the same treatment in return. Be kind and respectful-treat others as you would want to be treated. Be there even when the going is tough or difficult.

LEARN TO FORGIVE. It is very essential that we should learn to forgive and forget. When you sincerely given freely to forgive, it may heal relationship that it is suffering. Forget your pride or your ego, it doesn't have to do with your relationship, it might just ruin it. Give second chances. Time heal all wounds...

Sometimes it feels impossible to find the right person for you. It is like searching for a piece of puzzle. And when you finally find that person, you don't mind what's going on with your surroundings. Balanced your, love, social, mental and spiritual life. Make the relationship you are in bring out the best in both of you.