This is from my Sister, and I wanted to share it with all of you, in hopes that you can heal, and I really welcome all comments about this - for I would really love to know what you all think, even if its negative, for its how we all can learn.
Thanks & peace be with you all.
Cath (Cigi) ---------------------

Thoughts that help me get through rough moments, days, weeks, etc.:

Please share this with anyone you know who might be having a bad day.

Because as my beautiful grandbaby said: Today's a new day!

People really cannot harm me unless I allow it. There are bad people in the world. But, to CAUSE me to have a bad day? Not unless I give them permission. There is a difference between caring and control. Do I care? Do they care? Do I control? Do they control? I have only the power to care/not care and control only myself. I do not have power over others. Nor do they have power over me.

Does this mean I cannot be affected by others? No. It only means how I am affected is up to me. When I fall (or feel pushed down ), I can pick myself up, scrape off my knees and move on. I have the love of a spiritual Father and Mother. They guide me and if I allow them, they protect me and get me through painful times. Am I taking things so seriously that they are controlling me? Does it mean my happiness depends on others? Happiness is an inside job. If I choose to be happy, I will attract happy people and when $#!& does hit the fan, I am better prepared because I do not allow the $#!& to control who I am. After all, it's just $#!&. It will pass and maybe down the road I can share that experience with others. Maybe this is why I had to endure the $#!&.

A parent does not allow their child to run blindly across the street when they are little. Maybe God or the Goddess (our parents) sees the traffic down the street that we cannot see. Perhaps this is why we get the answer "no" when we try to run blindly across the street ourselves. It does not mean we have been left abandoned. It means maybe Something knows more than I do at the moment. I may not like it. But neither do I like some of the results I get when I try to run my own show.

Who is being or trying to be harmful? Spiritually well people do not act that way. Perhaps, this person is spiritually sick. How would I treat a sick person?

I will not allow people to live rent free in my head. If they are not paying rent, I will evict them. This way they do not own me. I own my own thoughts. They do not control me, I control me. They do not decide my days. I decide my days.

They have no power unless I give it to them by keeping them in my head. When I see them, it is as though I see a stranger or a neighbor I do not know who lives down the road. This reaction causes them to KNOW they no longer have any power over me, my thoughts, or my life. And with that, I win. I do not have to say anything to them, that is God's business. He can take care of the person who is spiritually sick, not me. But I do not have to engage in any sort of sickness with them.

I am a stronger person and I can lead my spiritual life by example to all who see me. I have had many life experiences. Some pleasant, others NOT. I get angry, sad, irritable, happy, caring, excited, hopeful just like anyone (everyone) else. It's funny, when I am caring it's because I choose to be, but when I am angry or sad it's someone else's fault. Most days I can stay out of this type of thinking. Some days it's more difficult. But, if I look at it, I can remember I CONTROL ME, THE IRRITATING PERSON OR SITUATION DOES NOT.

I hope this helps. I enjoyed reading your postings.
Peace and Light.

It took me a long time and many years of therapy to realize that i ONLY had control over what i did and said. I use to try to control those around me I think more so to keep from getting hurt. thank you for sharing this very well written and powerful words.

Dear Cindy,
I'm glad that you liked this post. It's hard to get use to doing. Takes a lot of practice. I've yet to accomplish all of this for myself, but working on it. And like you, I too have done the same thing to keep from getting hurt. Thank you for sharing & God Bless .